Married Life = ???

April 13, 2010 at 10:37 am | Posted in Around Boston, Married Life | 17 Comments
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The other day after work, our boss* forced us to join him and the rest of the team for happy hour (not that we didn’t want to, of course, but you know how long our commutes are – we like getting home at a reasonable hour). Put aside the fact that he doesn’t drink at all, and that I’m always the designated driver- that’s not the point of this story (though it is a little silly). What is more bloggable is how he coerced me into going…

“Sarah,” he said. “Has anyone ever told you what happens after you get married?”

“No… What happens??” I answered in a slightly panicked voice.

“Terrible things. You had better come out with us now, before it is too late!”

I glanced at my bloggier – and happily married (to Mike, not me) – half for a little hint or some reassurance. She shrugged her shoulders, unable to assuage my concerns.

“What kinds of things, boss-man?”

“Well, your weekends become… boring. You will start thinking of a trip to Bed Bath & Beyond as a date, you’ll go to Home Depot and see Imax movies at the Jordan’s in Reading… You may even go out for dinner at Kelly’s!”

Well, dear reader(s), if you subtract the trips to Kelly’s and add Sunday mornings at the grocery store and a few meals out at “casual dining establishments,” that’s pretty much what my weekends are like now! And Andrew and I kind of like it that way.

So my question for you is: what happens after we get hitched? Will we become more exciting? Will we reach a new level of blah? Help! What should we expect?!?


* N.B.: Said top banana is happily married with three kids.


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  1. Sarah, the only thing that happens after you get married is that EVERYONE starts asking, “when are you having a baby?”. As for what happens after you have a baby, please refer to the other other sister.

    • Hahaha, I hear you, Other Sister!! Would it be impolite for me to ask you about future buns in your particular oven on your Facebook page? Rude? Awkward? Neh…

      • PS My guess is that after you have a baby, they begin to ask when you’ll have your NEXT baby!

  2. P.S. Kelly’s looks delicious!

  3. Hmmmm. I think the first thing that happens is you get fat. The second thing that happens is you stop caring that you’re fat.

    Both things are AWESOME.

    • Oh la la! Bring on #2! Just imagine how much sunnier my disposition will be when I stop this “healthy eating” rollercoaster 😉

  4. The question that begs to be answered is perhaps not what will happen to you after marraige, but what is going on now when you drink….
    Does Top Banana know something about this unfortunate behavior that compels him to insist that you not drink in public?
    My mind is spinning with scenarios that are just too terrible to type….
    And besides they are making me laugh too hard to keep my fingers on the keyboard!!!

    • Well, without divulging any details concerning the time period before I knew how to hold my liquor/limit myself appropriately (and for those who have known me a long time, I AM referring to a particular incident at Anna’s Taqueria that shall go un-expanded upon… ), I can confidently say that top banana has no insider information that could get me in trouble! Yet…

  5. hey Sarah, I love, again, your honest posts just about life…and i had to respond to this one. 🙂
    I’m not sure how long you’ve been married, but my husband and i have been married now for 7 years (and 3 kids along the way), and for us, it has just gotten better with time. Much of the cultural messages today tend to imply that marriage is a “burden” or “something to hold you back.” And that is just not true…in fact, it could not be any further from the truth. Both of our parents are also happily married (never divorced), so we both had very good role models growing up. And unfortunately, not everyone sees a healthy picture of what marriage could and should be, so they have no idea how to create that. Love is so often viewed today as merely a feeling, and then marriage is subsequently committed to “only as long as love lasts.” But true love involves sacrifice–and sticking it out even when things get hard. And love really only grows deeper with time and trial (and yes, more exciting). I am still learning new things about my husband, and he about me–and that is never boring. Be encouraged!

    • Awww, Bonnie – you’re a doll! Thanks for commenting and for the reassurance 🙂 Frankly, we enjoy our quiet life together – it’s just who we are.

      We’re getting married in October, but we’ve been together for about six years – certainly not rushing into this 😉

      Hopefully we’ll be blessed with the kind of love you and your husband have found – we’ll certainly work for it!

  6. Oh Leah, believe it or not, after I got married I got skinny!!!

  7. The best thing that changes once you get married is that you no longer have to plan a wedding. I love being a wife, but never was all that in to being a bride 🙂 With B’s and my schedules, it meant that we finally had down time together again – gotta love residency.

    • I’m definitely looking forward to that, Brooke! Good call 🙂

  8. It sounds like my life and yours now, esp. the BB+B trips. I think moving in = marriage, but just without a certificate. DUDE, that cheesecake was so good. U stil eating that cake. SO not on the diet or diabetes-plan, Thanks again for dinnner.

    Did April beat anyone up this week? I’m on your side April – I wanted to smack someone with the same name as a beloved co-bookcluber, when I heard about the ‘goings-on’ of the past weeks.

    • That’s a good analogy… I think moving in is the new marriage 😉

  9. Agreed, L-Ski’s boring.

    • LOL, I believe a challenge has been issued: Will Andrew come out of his lurking status to defend himself? Or will he endure the taunts in silence…

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